Self-talk is the “Bully Troll” in our head. When you understand self-talk – you reduce overwhelm, enjoy your life, and make better decisions.
A = Acknowledge the Antagonist
- Realize the Rascal: Understand there’s a little troublemaker in your mind, always trying to bring you down with negative chatter. It’s like a bully. It doesn’t mean to harm; it just doesn’t know any better.
- Spot the Signs: Feeling down for no reason, stressed, or thinking you’re not good enough comes from this internal noise.
B = Brush Off the Babble
- Permission to Pass: Give yourself the “O.K.” not to take the internal bully seriously. It’s not the boss of you!
- Quiet Quest: Learn to calm your mind. Whether it’s through deep breathing, listening to music, or finding a peaceful spot, discover how to hit your mind’s “mute button.”
- Tired of the Talk: Understand that this endless internal chit-chat is super tiring. It’s okay to just want some quiet and let those thoughts float away. They’re not helping anyway!
C = Concentrate on the Cool Stuff
- Positive Power: Like a superhero, gather all the good thoughts and memories, and let them be your shield against the bully’s whispers.
- Captain of Control: Be the boss of what you can do something about, and let go of what’s not in your hands. Worrying less about the uncontrollable stuff is like dropping heavy baggage – super freeing!
D = Distribute the Decency
- Present and Pleasant: Be 100% there when you’re with others. Listen to them, share smiles and kind words – it’s like giving out little gifts of happiness.
- Mirroring Magic: Treat others how you’d like to be treated, but don’t forget it works the other way around too. Don’t say anything to yourself that you wouldn’t say to a friend.
- Critic’s Corner: Remember, when you look in the mirror, it’s not just about spotting flaws. Be your own cheerleader, not just your own critic. That’s the real golden secret!
By following the “ABCDs of Self-Talk” – you’re learning to tune out the unnecessary, unkind noise in your head, focusing on what makes you feel strong and happy, and are spreading that goodness to others, too. It’s not just about looking great; it’s about feeling great, inside and out!